Ilikuwa tarehe 16 ya mwezi wa kumi na moja mwaka jana Mtoto wa Mfalme wa Falme ya Tooro nchini Uganda alipoolewa na mchumba wake kutoka Marekani, (Mmarekani mweusi) Christopher Thomas.
Wawili hawa walionekana kuwa kwenye mapenzi mazito sana wakati wa ndoa ya yao na hata baada.
Ni jana tarehe 28 ya mwezi wa kumi, Takribani miezi 11 baadae, Bi dada Ruth Komuntale ameandika waraka kuwasihi Waganda waelewe hali yake kwa sasa kwani ndoa yao imeshindwa kuendelea.
Katika waraka wake huo, Princess huyu alieleza kuwa, alijaribu kila liwezalo kuikombo ando ayake lakini ilishindikana. Alijaribu kwa kusamehe, kuvumilia na maelewano, lakini ndoa hii ilikosa upendo, na uaminifu.
Huu hapa waraka wa binti huyo....
Ruth is accusing her husband of domestic violence, over boozing and being unfaithful.
“I loved my husband and respected him and our marriage vows until the
end and it saddens to announce that our marriage has ended,” said Ruth
in a statement via her official Facebook page.
Here is a full statement from Princess Ruth Komuntale.
My fellow Ugandans, people of Tooro, friends, and supporters around the world;
Nimbaramukya n’okugonza n’obusinge bwa Mukama. As you well know,
last year, I married Christopher Thomas, an African American young man
from St. Louis, Missouri. Like all marriages, we have had our peaks and
valleys that we dealt with privately. However, there are challenges we
encountered that cannot be reconciled or easily forgotten.
For the person we love, we are reluctant to believe their negative
traits and behaviors; love also made me blind, and unable to see the
negatives. Yet, a number of issues surfaced requiring me to take a step
back and reflect on those values that define us individually and as a
couple. Unfortunately, through this process, I realized that Chris and I
were heading in two separate paths, because of his personality,
promiscuousness, and the physical and emotional domestic abuse.
For example, as you may have seen in the media, a few weeks after
our wedding, things got out of hand. Chris physically abused me and
continued drinking heavily, which led to more promiscuity and
infidelity. While he was out one night, he called asking me to join him
in a hotel with “a nice view.” I thought he probably wanted to surprise
me with something nice. But on arriving at the hotel he took me to a
room where a woman was standing in a towel. They were obviously together
before I arrived. When I asked him why he was doing this to me, his
response was that he wanted to make me feel jealous because other men
wanted to dance with me when were out the previous night.
I could go on and on about how Chris physically and emotionally
tormented me. I am so ashamed to mention all the things he has put me
through, but it is about time everyone knows the truth. I have suffered
in silence long enough, and I am tired. I tried to save my marriage
numerous times and forgave all his transgressions in vain. I have also
worked extremely hard to keep my private life to myself, and avoid
making a public spectacle, but I have been left with no choice but to
come out and tell the whole truth.
Due to the continuous abuse I have endured in my marriage, this
week I told Chris we needed a break from our relationship until I could
be certain I will never be physically or emotionally abused again. Chris
responded by going into a rage, threatened to destroy my reputation and
that of my family unless I stayed with him. He gave me an ultimatum to
change my mind in five minutes or he would publically humiliate me but I
refused to give in to his usual controlling tricks.
Before I knew it, he went on Facebook and posted wild and false
allegations to damage my reputation and force me to do what he wants.
Using his Facebook account, the ‘Princess komuntale’ page, and the
‘Batebe’ facebook page which are under his sole control and do not
belong to me, he posted humiliating and painful lies for the world to
see. But I refused to allow myself to get back in abusive relationship
so that he could stop blackmailing me.
I loved my husband and respected him and our marriage vows until
the end and it saddens to announce that our marriage has ended. I plan
to move forward with my life where I am not abused every day.
I want to take this opportunity to thank all those who have stood
by me in this challenging period. I am eternally grateful for your
support and encouragement. I am especially humbled and heartened by my
fellow women who have endured domestic abuse and have reached out to me
and supported me in the last week.
This painful ordeal has taught me many important life lessons.
First, that sheer one-sided love is not sufficient for a life-long
relationship. Secondly, that one ought to have exceptional judgment of
character before entering a life-long commitment. This comes with
long-term courtship. And third, love should not hurt, abuse, or torment.
To those women who find themselves in a situation similar to mine,
I urge you to take a stand against anyone who can harm you physically
or emotionally. It’s not worth it. I tried it for over a year and it
never works out. Remember, marriage should not be a trap, but rather a
healthy relationship that supports the best interests of both; it should
be based on mutual respect, it should bring happiness, it should bring
two souls together for a life-long mutual commitment.
At this time, I kindly ask you for your prayers and support. I
also ask the media to allow me some privacy as I embark on a healing
process. I am strong and I know with God’s help I will be a better
person because of this.
May God bless you, Tooro, and our country Uganda.
Sincerely,
HRH Ruth Nsemere Komuntale
oh! sad story
ReplyDeleteThe problem with you African women - especially the elite community, is that after being abroad for sometime you think you are too good for African (your homeland) men. And you do everything to find men from abroad to bring home as a trophy. More often you under estimate or overlook the inter-racial, inter-culture challenges. Well, results speaks for themselves. Sorry though, tough luck there!
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